What holds us back in life, both personally and professionally, are unresolved emotional issues

07 Oct 2012 02:45 | Armelle Loghmanian

 “What holds us back in life, both personally and professionally, are unresolved emotional issues"

Interview by Alessandra Zocca

Jeanine Crombé,
EFT Specialist, Trainer & Mentor, 
Founder of EFT for Life

PWI – Jeanine, your presentation of the Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) - at the event recently organized by PWI - raised a lot of appreciation and interest in the binomial business-emotions. We are organizing together an “EFT Level 1 Certificate Training Workshop” in October, so I will not ask you much about the content of EFT, but could you just provide us with a sharp definition of it?

Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)belongs to a new class of treatments referred to as Energy Psychology. EFT evolved from Thought Field Therapy, which was created by U.S. clinical psychologist Dr. Roger Callahan. Gary Craig, who studied with Dr. Callahan, is the Founder of EFT.

EFT is a simple process of tapping on acupressure points on the body. By tapping on these acupressure points, we can release uncomfortable emotions and negative thoughts. As a result we feel better, think better, and handle our lives with more ease, harmony, and effectiveness. EFT is an emotional version of acupuncture without the needles. Instead, we stimulate certain meridian points by tapping on them with our fingertips.
The idea is that negative emotions are caused by imbalances in the body's subtle energy system and this tapping serves to restore that balance. Properly done, even the heaviest trauma or the most embarrassing rejection becomes "just something else that happened."
EFT is a safe, easy-to-use, easy-to-learn self-help tool with lasting results.

PWI - Frankly I suspect that only few years ago the association between emotions and profession or business was not considered “very managerial”; why –in your opinion – are we hearing more and more about the power and impact of emotions in each and every aspect of life, including business? Are the stress and insecurity caused by the current economic crisis contributing in breaking down some old prejudices about emotions?
Indeed, I agree with you that it was not that long ago that expressing emotions and feelings was not considered part of our professional culture.
We are all emotional beings whether we like it or not. If we don’t acknowledge and accept our emotions consciously, then we act them out unconsciously, and these uncontrolled outbursts are often experienced as unprofessional in the business world.

However, recently there has been a big shift. As women, who need to keep up with the big changes that are happening in the world, we are required to bring all of who we are to the workplace, not only our logical side but also our intuitive feminine power. The world needs our compassion, empathy, nurturing, graciousness, serenity, and understanding. In addition, constructive emotions have a positive effect on our health and well-being, especially when we decide to express them in a balanced way.
As women, we are most powerful when we balance BEing, ENJOYing, and DOing, without sacrifice.
The biggest gift we can give to the world is our own happiness. The happier we are the more we can give from a place of emotional abundance, instead of feeling exhausted and depleted.

We have the opportunity to be inspiring role models. Our transformational power comes from standing with and for each other, instead of following the outdated competition model. When we infuse our feminine power with love, we exude a graceful radiance that nurtures everyone we connect with.

Embodying our full feminine power from a place of centeredness allows us to uplift others with our enthusiasm. And… did you know that ‘enthusiasm’ is the most powerful positive emotion to influence and have an inspiring impact as a leader?

PWI – If the old prejudices about emotions are breaking down, will this help more women take on managerial roles / Board positions?
Women who have the courage to step into their full feminine power will have an enormous advantage in the workplace just by being themselves, authentically.

We can all feel it when someone walks their talk and is congruent emotionally, mentally, socially, and spiritually. When someone with these qualities steps into the board room, we can feel the difference clearly and immediately.

PWI – Emotions had been considered in the past (and maybe still?) as a weakness or a peculiarity of women. What is the difference, between men and women, in how they perceive and manage emotions, if there definitely is a difference in your opinion?

Yes, indeed there is definitely a clear difference between men and women when it comes to feelings. Men trust facts, not feelings. More so, they trust facts they gather. Men trust in themselves. They trust their values, their standards and their ethics.

As a woman our feelings are the most important expression of who we are. For a man, his opinions are the most important expression of who he is. Men put a lot of deep thought into forming their opinions and expect us as women to listen to them and acknowledge them.
We usually listen to men in an ‘agree/ disagree’ mode, instead of deeply listening to their opinions. If we do listen deeply, we may learn a lot about who they are and what is important to them.

PWI – How can emotions condition our life? And, on the other side, how can women leverage their emotions for a better life and for professional success?
What I have seen with thousands of my clients around the world is that what holds us back in life, both personally and professionally, are unresolved emotional issues. We are all smart beyond measure, but certain emotional states are interfering and sabotaging our hard work, and we are not getting the results we want.
These issues drain our energy on a subconscious level and we are not even aware of the fact that this is happening. We feel out of control.

We bring our anger, frustration, and other disappointments to the workplace and we try to hide them ‘professionally’ not knowing that other people have ‘antennas’ and pick up on our undesirable state, whether we like it or not. This emits emotional toxicity in the workplace.
The best way to leverage our emotions for a better life and professional success is to resolve unwanted emotions on a cellular and subconscious level, so they don’t interfere anymore with what we want to accomplish in life.

If we don’t self-sabotage unconsciously, then we can enjoy being authentically in alignment with our goals and desires.
During the last 10 years, I have continually experienced that when our conscious mind and subconscious mind are in agreement, we access an unprecedented inner power allowing us to enjoy success easier, faster, and more gracefully than ever before.

PWI -   
During your presentation at PWI I was impressed by your ability to “read emotions” in people’s voice. Can you please tell us more about this skill of yours, where you learned to de-code emotions in the voice and how do people “unconsciously” reveal their emotions through their voice?     
Being a keen listener and hearing people’s emotions in their voices is something we all can do, if we pay enough attention.

About 15 years ago, I learned this skill in detail at Coach University, where I attended a two year professional coach training program. One of the modules was learning to listen to 250 different things in a person’s voice.
It allows me to work very effectively over the phone with my clients, because voice technology is more precise than body language.
We all reveal our emotions through our voice by the way we breathe, our timbre, color, speed, rhythm, what is said/unsaid, tonality, and so on. Beside this technical aspect, we can learn a lot from deep empathic listening and connecting with each other with sincere interest.

PWI - Jeanine, why have you chosen the EFT amongst all the psychological disciplines?
The reason why I have chosen EFT (and continue to do so) is because it is in my experience the safest and easiest tool to release unwanted emotions on a subconscious level.

When I explain this concept to my workshop participants, I often receive the question: Where is my subconscious? And then they point everywhere outside of themselves trying to locate it. Our subconscious resides in our body, in our cells, and in our DNA.

What we are in essence doing is deleting unwanted programming on a cellular level. Once we have made ‘space’ in our subconscious then we can re-program with EFT our own subconscious with the attitudes and emotions we DO want. This gives us independence and puts us in the driver’s seat of our own life. In addition, most people appreciate having a powerful tool to manage, self-sooth, and self-calm their own emotions privately.

I know numerous other wonderful psychological disciplines, but nothing compares to EFT in terms of getting permanent results easily, gracefully, and effectively.

I always tell my clients, the day I find something better than EFT, I will let you know immediately, but so far I have not found anything that is even close to what EFT can do for us.

PWI – Have you seen a difference in the way different nationalities manage their emotions?
By talking and working with thousands of women around the world, I have noticed that our similarities are more important than our differences.

We all want to be appreciated and valued for who we are. We are looking for a love-filled and meaningful life. We want to know we are a priority in the lives of our loved ones, while sharing our gifts and talents generously to make this world a better place for all of us.

And I love to contribute to this in my own way.
When I go to sleep at night and I know there is at least one person today that has less pain and more hope for a better life, then I go to sleep peacefully, content, and with gratitude…

 Intrigued by EFT?

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Short Biography

Jeanine Crombé has worked full-time with Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) since 2002.
She specializes in EFT exclusively and practices EFT full-time as a Personal Performance & Life Coach and EQ Consultant.
She teaches EFT Level 1, Level 2, and Level 3 Workshops. She hosts EFT Teleclass Series, conducts EFT Retreats, leads EFT Specialty Workshops, offers EFT Audio Programs, and her latest project... recording and producing her own EFT Videos!
In her private practice (over the phone and via video Skype) she specializes in complex and difficult cases.

She is the Owner and President of Crombé J Life Coaching Inc., a private corporation, formed in 1995.
Jeanine is a former member of the Canadian Association for Professional Speakers, a Founding member of Coachville, a member of Coach University, and former member of the International Coach Federation.
She received extensive and Advanced Live Training, including Mastering EFT for Serious Diseases in Seattle and Stamford from Gary H. Craig, Founder of EFT. Most recently, she attended the EFT Masters Boot Camp in Denver, conducted by Gary H. Craig.
Jeanine is one of the first people in North America to hold an Advanced Certificate in Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT).
Jeanine is a Graduate of Coach University in Colorado, one of the leading coach training organizations in the world. As a member of the International Coach Federation, Jeanine's professional work ethics are guided by the Standards, Procedures, and Policies of this organization.
Before moving to Canada, Jeanine enjoyed a 21-year successful and fulfilling teaching career in Belgium. She received her Bachelor Degree in Education in Antwerp, Belgium.

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